I saw this video on Facebook of two girls who dressed up as “fuckboys” for Halloween, I found it hilarious but some of the boys in the comment section were seriously offended, it wasn’t long before the word slut was being thrown around at the girls and it made me wonder…
What exactly are we criticizing? The act of sex can be viewed from so many different angles and one’s culture, upbringing, religion, social conditioning, whatever play a role in how sex is viewed.
At the most basic level sex is a physical act used by most all species in nature for the purpose of procreation. It is hardwired in our DNA. I’m not going to go too much into depth or detail because that would take forever but my point is this: It’s okay to be a fuckboy and it’s okay to be a slut. Why? Because it is your body and what you do with it should be your choice. The problem is not in two consenting adults having casual sex, the problem is in any deception or promise of something more than just said casual sex.
Not everyone has time or wants a relationship or a commitment with another person, however that does not mean that they do not want sex. If the two individuals are not in a relationship with someone else why should the act of them having sex with each other warrant any type of criticism or belittling? Most opposition or denouncing of this behavior is likely to come from people with religious views, well sorry to break it to you but not everyone is religious and not everyone feels the same way you do.
That all being said, there are some basic precautions that should be taken into consideration, such as birth control and STD preventatives, testing and treatment. This should be a priority because when they are ignored then this behavior does affect the rest of society, not just the two involved.
The big thing that stands out to me when it comes to promiscuous behavior isn’t really any of the above but what it does to you on a more subtle, energetic or spiritual level. Sex is an exchange of energy and when viewed in this light sex becomes a sacred act because it affects more than just the physical body. Of course, I am aware that not all people know or agree with this and I myself did not consider it for the longest time but now I find it undeniable, at least in my own personal experience. So with that concept in mind the choosing of a partner becomes a little more selective. You want to be with someone who respects you and themselves, someone who has a higher vibration and has qualities that you would like to see in yourself. If you go with someone of a lower vibration enough times they could bring you down with them, especially if you are not conscious of what is going on. Like I stated earlier I am not going to go too much into depth on this post but I hope that at the very least you take the time to do some research on how sex affects more than just the physical body and also consider that not all people view sex in the same way and instead of shaming people for having sex and keeping the subject taboo we should be learning more about it and keeping an open mind and heart. Sex was not meant to be a cause for shame but narrow minds and generations of conditioning have turned the sacred into something profane.